Are you facing a move and feeling completely overwhelmed about starting over with your homeschool? Maybe you’re wishing for some sense of rhythm and comfort when everything else around you is shifting.
In this episode, I talk with Melaney Smith, a pastor’s wife and homeschool mom of three, about what it’s like to leave everything behind and begin again. Melaney recently moved her family from Stockton, California, all the way to the snowy prairies of North Dakota. She generously shares what it was like to grieve, adjust (and freeze!), and eventually discover her new groove as a homeschooling mom.
We talk about what really happens when your routines get tossed upside-down and how to handle the emotional load, the reality of creating community in a completely new place, and how tools like Autopilot became Melaney’s secret weapon during the chaos. In her story, you’ll find surprising insights about why familiar routines matter so much during big transitions and how flexible habits can truly anchor your family when everything else feels unfamiliar.
If you are walking through a big life change or just need some honest encouragement (plus a few laughs about frozen winters and missing good hot sauce), you’ll find practical help and camaraderie right here.
Links and Resources From Today’s Show
- Put Your Homeschool Year on Autopilot
- Homeschool Consistency Bootcamp
- Podcast episode on the Minimum Viable Day
- Homeschool Better Together Community
What You’ll Learn About Homeschooling Through Change
- What actually happens (emotionally and practically) when you move cross-country with your family and begin homeschooling again
- How consistency and familiar homeschool rhythms can help everyone adjust after a big move
- Why planning tools and a supportive community are essential during chaotic seasons
- The basics of “Minimum Viable Days” and why these can be a lifesaver when your regular routines are impossible
- Creative ideas for adapting your homeschool to new climates, schedules, and cultures
- Why taking three to five years to feel at home is normal—and perfectly okay
- How letting go of perfection and choosing to show up faithfully brings peace and growth
When Your Whole Life Moves, but Homeschool Stays
How do you homeschool after a huge cross-country move? Melaney Smith did it and lived to laugh about it. When her family left Stockton, California for North Dakota, everything changed except one thing: their homeschool rhythm.

Melaney’s story reminds us that moving isn’t just about organizing boxes or surviving winter. It’s also about grieving, starting over, and learning what is truly essential. Even if you’re not moving, you’ll recognize the feeling of facing an unexpected season and wondering what’s next.
Consistency in a World That Won’t Stop Moving
The Smiths’ move was a big deal. It meant leaving friends, family, and warm weather behind. There were plenty of hard days and a lot of tears (sometimes from the grownups). But Melaney soon learned that she could bring a piece of “home” to North Dakota by keeping a few of their cherished homeschool routines. Read-alouds, Morning Time, and even “just finish the math page” created familiarity and comfort. These rhythms helped everyone adjust, even when everything else felt new.
You Don’t Need a Perfect Plan or a Perfect Day
Melaney wishes she’d known about “Minimum Viable Days” sooner. The idea is simple: focus on just the most essential things on tough days, and let the rest go. Maybe you read a story together, do one page of math, and call it a day. You’re still making progress, even if it doesn’t look the way you hoped.
Success isn’t perfection: it’s showing up, doing what you can, and trusting that small efforts add up over time.
Planning (and Community) Are Your Friends
Melaney credits much of her sanity to planning tools (like Autopilot) and the support she found in homeschool communities. She’s a planner by nature, but even if you’re not, having clear but flexible plans provides a sense of security in the chaos. Combine that with connecting to at least one or two other homeschooling moms—locally or online—and suddenly you’re not so alone.
Give Yourself More Time Than You Expect
Settling in after any big transition is a long game. Military families told Melaney it could take three to five years before a new place truly feels like home, and she’s found that advice comforting. Homes and communities need time to grow roots. Don’t rush the process.
Melaney’s Practical Tips for Homeschooling Through Big Changes
- Let everyone process the transition. Tears or tough days are normal.
- Stick to familiar routines, even if it’s only the basics.
- Lower your expectations. Focus on a few essentials each day.
- Find at least one person you can talk with, in person or online.
- Trust that God can work with whatever you have to give.
What Can You Do Next?
- Listen to the full podcast episode.
- Need support? Join our free online homeschool community
- Revisit Autopilot if you need help building your own flexible plan
- Share this article with a friend facing a big move
Remember, even when life pulls the rug out, you’re not alone. Consistent routines, a little community, and a lot of grace are often all you really need. And if you’re homesick for Mexican food, we won’t judge you for putting hot sauce on a casserole.
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