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In this episode of Homeschool Better Together, I’m tackling something we all face—the way that initial excitement of a new homeschool year can quickly fade. Trust me, I’ve been there too. So, let’s chat about what happens when that “honeymoon period” ends and how to handle it without the guilt.

I’ll share how I’ve learned to go with the natural ups and downs of homeschooling instead of forcing the same energy all year long. It’s about finding what works for your family and allowing yourself those slower days.

I’ll also walk you through some simple strategies like tracking your homeschool patterns, making adjustments when needed, and not beating yourself up when things don’t go perfectly. Plus, I’ll talk about the importance of connecting with other homeschool moms, because we’re all in this together.

Pam Barnhill [00:00:01]:
Are you ready for homeschooling to feel joyful again? Do you long for support as you learn alongside your kids? Welcome to Homeschool Better Together. A podcast about building a homeschool experience that works for your family. I’m Pam Barnhill, and it’s time to step out of the overwhelm and into the wonder. Let’s do this. Do you ever feel like the initial excitement of homeschooling from the beginning of the homeschool year just kind of fizzles out and doesn’t last? I mean, I definitely have felt this feeling, and that’s what I wanna talk about today. What happens when all of the initial excitement fizzles out, and what can you do to keep the momentum going, And should you try to keep the momentum going? I think that’s kind of the biggest thing that I want to talk about today. I mean, the start of the new homeschool year always feels so fresh and so exciting. To me, anyway, my kids don’t necessarily feel this way about it.

Pam Barnhill [00:01:17]:
But I get that same kind of back to school feeling. You know, you remember when you were a kid and you, like, got new clothes and you got new school supplies and everything was bright and shiny and new and you got to go and meet your teachers. And, I mean, I went to public school. I don’t know about you. A lot of you probably did. And it was just such an exciting time of the year. And I still get that excitement at the beginning of the school year. And so it kind of propels us forward and I call it the honeymoon period of the homeschool year.

Pam Barnhill [00:01:49]:
Now there are struggles, but there is also, I don’t know, this kind of period of where I think that’s one of the things that really helps me over some of the struggles that we have is there is this kind of fun excitement there. And I call that the honeymoon period. And after years years of homeschooling, I now realize that that period is going to end and it’s perfectly okay. Because you see, back in the day when I first started homeschooling, we would have this intense excitement at the beginning of the homeschool year. And I thought, this is great. This is wonderful. We were so consistent. Everything was fabulous, but it would stop.

Pam Barnhill [00:02:29]:
And then I would feel really bad about the fact that it was stopping. I would feel really bad that I wasn’t able to maintain that same kind of fabulous intensity throughout the entire school year. You know, we would get to November, and things would start to get hard and be a slog. And we’d take a few weeks off in December, and we would come back strong in January, and then February would just knock us flat. And then maybe by April, I would be sitting there going, oh, you know what? I really need to finish this whole school year strong. And usually by mid May, we would fizzle out. The same pattern happened year after year, and I was constantly beating myself up for the fact that we always started so strong, but we never finished that way. And it wasn’t until I decided, you know what? This is just our natural pattern.

Pam Barnhill [00:03:23]:
This is just what’s going to happen every year. And I stopped beating myself up for it and came to peace with it, that I was able to kind of lean into that pattern and lean into the times that we were really going gangbusters and getting a lot done. And then kind of rest and relax on the times that we weren’t and really embrace those smaller, quieter times and use those to rejuvenate ourselves and pick up again on the better times. So one of the things that I did was I realized that we always had a little pick me up in December because we would start to get to the end of the 1st semester. And I would be feeling a little bit behind because I hadn’t gotten as much done as I wanted to because November is typically a wash for us. And I would get this little second wind right there. But if we were stopping everything that we were doing to do all of this fun Christmas school stuff. We were missing out on that second wind and that opportunity to actually accomplish some things.

Pam Barnhill [00:04:33]:
So instead of doing Christmas school, I hate to admit this because everybody does Christmas school and just loves it so much. We would do a good strong 2 weeks of academics after Thanksgiving, and then we would just stop and do Christmas. And it it didn’t become a Christmas school thing for us. I didn’t make everything in December about Christmas school. It was like, wow, I’m getting a second win. This is when we can really get some academics done. My kids, they have no idea about Christmas school. They don’t care.

Pam Barnhill [00:05:07]:
They just know that we would do school until the 2nd week of December, and then we would take some time off and just really enjoyed our downtime and really enjoyed our time off. That was just what worked for me. And I think this is the most important message right here is figure out, kind of track your ebbs and flows. You could even do this by writing down each month. You get to the end of the month and you say, how was homeschooling this month? Let me evaluate. You know, what was my mood like? How consistent were we? What did it feel like? And just kind of track that for a while and realize kind of what your natural rhythms are and lean into the times when you can really get things done. And then, you know, really rest on the other times instead of spending all of your energy, you know, spinning and beating yourself up for it. I think that’s probably a really good thing to do if I do say so myself.

Pam Barnhill [00:06:02]:
So once I realized that we were going to go gangbusters and have all of this energy and motivation, because I had all of this energy and motivation. In August September, I just started planning to do more days of school to have a more intense August September, and then to very naturally plan fewer days of school later in the year. And this was when I came up with kind of the concept of magic number schooling that we now teach and put your homeschool year on autopilot, So I could really lean into that idea of hitting school heavy when it worked in our natural rhythms and then not when it didn’t. Okay. What about you? I would love to know. Do you follow this kind of up and down seasonal pattern of homeschooling or do you stay pretty consistent throughout the school year? I would love for you to tell me down in the comments. You know, there are other people who talk about this very similar process. Robin Ludwig is a mom in our community, and she’s actually been on the podcast with me before where we’ve talked about this, and I can find a link and leave it for you.

Pam Barnhill [00:07:10]:
But she leaned into this seasonal homeschooling really kind of early, and that’s what she calls it. She calls it seasonal homeschooling. And she actually comes up with different activities to prioritize and focus on in fall, spring, summer, and winter. And I thought that was just genius. And what’s really great about it is she’s like, this is the time of year. This is the quadrant of the year where we do something like nature walks and nature study. She doesn’t try to do it all year long. She fits it neatly into that quadrant because that’s what works well for her family.

Pam Barnhill [00:07:44]:
This is the time of year where we cuddle in and snuggle up and read lots of books. We do way more read alouds at this part of the year than we do at the other part of the year where we’re outside playing a lot. They do year round homeschooling, but she makes it work for her by really leaning into this seasonal approach. And Robin suggests, you know, just take a piece of paper and divide it into 4 quadrants, and think about our energy levels and the seasons outside and what’s going on with the activities that we have and really kind of like space out your homeschool activities. What are you going to do in each quadrant? And I love that concept. Melissa Wiley also talks about this thing called title homeschooling. Actually, this is something I’ve been interested in a long time because I did an interview with Melissa about it years ago, and so we’ll link that one for you as well. And it’s the very similar idea that there are high tide periods in your homeschool and there are low tide periods in your homeschool.

Pam Barnhill [00:08:45]:
And you could read that as there are high energy periods in your homeschool and low energy periods in your homeschool. But I think the biggest thing is to manage your expectations around the fact that there are going to be these high and low periods. We are not meant to maintain that same level of intensity all throughout the year, and that’s just so important. And so what are some things we can do? Well, understand that every homeschool day is not going to be the same, and every homeschool day is not going to be perfect. I hope you know that. Right? But allow room for those days in your schedule where you just throw up your hands and you’re like, you know what? We’re just not gonna finish this day. We’re having a really bad day. Maybe we’re gonna go get ice cream.

Pam Barnhill [00:09:29]:
Maybe we’re just gonna stop and have everybody go do quiet time. Maybe somebody just needs to go get a shower. You know, when my kids were little and we were having those really bad days, it would always come right before they would get sick. And what I came to realize was a kid really can’t tell you, oh, you know what? I’m starting to feel bad. I’m just not feeling good. Maybe I just need to take a little time. Instead, what they do is they resist and act up and all of those kinds of things that it’s not until after the they’re sick. And you’re like, oh, that’s what all that behavior was about.

Pam Barnhill [00:10:04]:
But by planning ahead for those kinds of things with the way you set up your homeschool schedule and realizing that they’re gonna happen, then you don’t feel quite so bad when they happen because you’re not trying to keep this really strict schedule. And so being able to adjust your plans as needed and being flexible really is the key to reducing stress. And then make sure to take care of yourself. I mean, if mom gets sick in the homeschool, well, then that’s where things very quickly start to fall apart. And so trying to stay as well rested as possible, which really not beating yourself up is a huge part of this. Talk about doing some things for self care when we’re constantly spending all of our time and energy beating ourselves up for not maintaining that same level of intensity, then that is really just doing us no favors. And that’s the kind of thing that is just going to be a complete total waste of time for us. And so realizing the self care of not beating ourselves up, I just think that one is so important.

Pam Barnhill [00:11:11]:
And then I think as part of that is connecting with the homeschool community at large. And if you don’t have people locally to you, you know, I mean, the best thing is just to meet up at the park with other homeschoolers on a regular basis and to be able to sit and talk about the schoolers on a regular basis and to be able to sit and talk about those high and low levels of homeschooling with other moms. Because the more you talk about it, the more you realize this is just perfectly a natural part of the entire process. If you don’t have that, connecting with an online community can offer some of the same kinds of benefits as well. And so I would love to invite you to our free homeschool community atpambarnhill.com, and you can find the link to the community right there on the homepage and check it out. There are so many moms there who can share their stories of the exact same thing. And so I think the more we talk about these kinds of things in our homeschooling, the more we normalize it, the more we come to realize that this is just part of what we do. And it’s going to allow us to give ourselves the grace we need to create the kind of homeschool environment that’s really going to work for our family and for us in the long run because we’re not going to get burned out.

Pam Barnhill [00:12:24]:
I wanna thank you for joining me today. I want to encourage you to give yourself just a little bit of grace when it comes to your homeschool day. And I just wanna tell you, keep on homeschooling. That’s our show for today. Be sure to follow, subscribe, and leave a review so you never miss out on the wonder of homeschooling better together. To stay connected and learn even more about the homeschooling better together resources and to join our free community, visit hsbtpodcast.com. Until next week, keep stepping out of the overwhelm and into the wonder.

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Key Ideas About Strategies to Keep Going

  • It’s normal for the excitement of the new homeschool year to fade.
  • Track your homeschool patterns to plan better.
  • Embrace productive times and allow for rest during slower periods.
  • Give yourself grace; perfection isn’t the goal.
  • Connect with other homeschoolers for support and encouragement.

How to Keep the Homeschool Momentum Going All Year Long

Do you ever feel like the excitement at the start of a new homeschool year just fizzles out? I know I do. That’s what I want to talk about today—how to handle it when that initial burst of energy fades and what you can do to keep the momentum going. Should you even try to keep it going? Let’s dive into it.

The Homeschool Honeymoon Period

The start of a new homeschool year always feels so fresh and exciting. For me, it’s like that back-to-school feeling from childhood—you know, when everything was bright and shiny, and you couldn’t wait to meet your new teachers and use your new supplies. My kids, on the other hand, don’t necessarily share my enthusiasm!

I call this the “homeschool honeymoon period.” It’s that initial burst of energy that helps us push through the early struggles. But here’s the thing: that honeymoon period is going to end, and that’s perfectly okay. I used to beat myself up when the excitement faded, thinking I had failed somehow. But I’ve learned to accept that this is just a natural part of the process.

Embracing the Ebbs and Flows

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that our homeschool follows a natural pattern. We start strong in August and September, but by November, things start to slow down. We might take a break in December, pick up a little steam in January, and then February knocks us flat. By April, I’m usually scrambling to finish the year strong, and by mid-May, we’re just about done.

I used to feel bad about this pattern, but once I accepted it, I was able to plan our year around it. Now, I lean into the times when we’re full of energy and getting a lot done, and I allow ourselves to rest when the motivation dips.

For example, instead of doing “Christmas school” in December like many families do, I use that time to push through a strong two weeks of academics before we take a break. This way, I’m taking advantage of that little second wind before the holidays, and it works for us.

Finding Your Homeschool Rhythm

One of the best things you can do is track your own homeschool rhythm. At the end of each month, take a few minutes to reflect on how things went. Were you consistent? How was your energy level? By tracking these patterns, you can start to see where your natural highs and lows are and plan your year accordingly.

It’s also helpful to think about homeschooling in “seasons.” For example, Robin Ludwig, a mom in our community, uses a seasonal approach to homeschooling. She plans different activities for different times of the year—like focusing on nature walks in the fall or doing more read-alouds in the winter. This way, she’s not trying to do everything all year long but instead, leans into what works best for her family at different times.

Adjusting Your Expectations

It’s important to understand that not every homeschool day is going to be perfect, and that’s okay. Some days, you’ll need to throw up your hands and take a break—whether that’s getting ice cream, doing quiet time, or just calling it a day. Being flexible and adjusting your plans as needed is key to reducing stress.

And don’t forget to take care of yourself. If you’re run down, everything else will start to fall apart. So, prioritize self-care and avoid the trap of beating yourself up for not maintaining that initial intensity. Remember, giving yourself grace is a crucial part of staying healthy and keeping your homeschool on track.

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Final Thoughts About Finding Your Homeschool Rhythm

Homeschooling has its ups and downs, and that’s completely normal. By embracing the natural rhythm of your homeschool year, adjusting your expectations, and taking care of yourself, you can create a sustainable and joyful homeschool experience for your family.

If you’re looking for more support, I’d love to invite you to join our free homeschool community at pambarnhill.com. It’s a great place to connect with other moms who are going through the same highs and lows.

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